Being Coachable - - Respond AND React

There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard.’ ‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went. Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go. Which of the two did what his father wanted?” “The first,” they answered. - Matthew 21:28-31

I can remember first hearing about what being coachable is from former Willamette University head coach Gordie James. He said that being coachable was not about saying “yes, coach” or telling the coach all the right things and having a good attitude. While those traits may in fact be good, they may also be a front. Being coachable is about taking correction from a coach and applying it, whether that be on the court or off.

Look at the two sons in Jesus’ parable. One says, “I will not.” A stern answer, a blatant refusal to follow directions. The other says, “I will, sir.” A response of submission along with addressing his dad with a respectful name. If the story stops here, it would be obvious which son was more coachable. But as we look deeper, the one who refuses at first ends up following his dad’s direction. The son who appeared to be respectful ends up insulting his dad by refusing to follow up on his word.

Being coachable requires actions in addition to a response. Coachable players will find their game improving throughout the season. The more players on a team that are coachable, the closer that team will get to reach its full potential. Remember that your coach only wants to help you improve when he is giving you advice. His goal is not to make you feel bad or inadequate, but to give you the tools to become the best player you can be.

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Screen Time and Your Lack of Focus

“To watch television as a default would be to waste our many gifts.” - Tsh Oxenreider  

The above quote might use television as an example, but I think this quote relates to overall screen time, including phones, Ipads, and television. The screen has become the default activity for society, and is even more of a problem with youth. While smart phones may seem to only distract the individual for the time being, the lasting effect is real.

Abundant screen time can lead to attention deficit, lack of physical motivation, and, worst of all, stupidity (the last one is based off of observation and personal experience). About a year and a half ago, I got rid of my smartphone (and social media) and came back to the flip phone. It was one of the best decisions I have made in recent years. This caused me to talk to people face-to-face and engage in situations I would usually hide behind my phone in. It also encouraged me to explore new hobbies and activities.

As an athlete, screen time can be a huge hindrance on your development. Hobbies such as TV and video games, if abused, can deflate your goals. Abusing your phone can lead to mental distractions. I see a lot of players who are attached to their phone, on it before practice, and reaching for it first thing after. That means that in the 2 hours of practice, their mind was on something other than basketball.

I think technology has provided us with many great opportunities. However, we all need to be cautious as to the amount of time and attention it can take away from us. It’s easy to notice the time, but the lasting effects are the ways it distracts our mind in what we are doing currently doing.

The 2014 Book List

Since I started picking up books in 2012, I have been sharing my reading list once the year ends. I think it's great to share what everyone is reading. I am always looking for book suggestions. This year, I am happy I reached the 20 book-benchmark. It was a hard year for reading enjoyable books; I am currently finishing grad school and, thus, many academic journals and textbooks were given priority. Perhaps my biggest recommendation from this list was Leaders Eat Last. Check out lists from 2013 and 2012.

1. The Assist by Neil Swidey
2. The Philosophy of Sin by Oswald Chambers
3. Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung
4. Pursuing Christ. Creating Art. by Gary A. Molander
5. Contagious by Jonah Berger
6. The Professor Plus More NW Sports Stories by David Espinoza
7. Lead...For God’s Sake by Todd Gongwer
8. Youtility by Jon Baer
9. The Truest Thing About You by David Lomas
10. You Are a Writer by Jeff Goins
11. Mind Gym by Gary Mack
12. Multiply by Francis Chan
13. The Irresistible Revolution by Shane Clairborne
14. Ruthless Trust by Brennan Manning
15. The Souls of Black Folks W.E.B. DuBois
16. The Cost of Discipleship by Dietrich Bonhoeffer
17. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
18. Lion and Lamb by Brennan Manning
19. Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek
20. Notes From a Blue Bike by Tsh Oxenreider

I am always looking for new book to go through. My list is already long for 2015, which makes me look forward to the new year.

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Buckets and Pipes - - Sharing Knowledge, Encouraging Others

As the year comes to a close, I think it’s important for everyone to reflect on what they have learned and how it will help them in the coming year to grow and develop into the person God created us to become. One area I am learning about is the importance of sharing. I feel like in the past couple years, I have began to understand how to share tangible things. However, it seems like there is an importance in sharing knowledge, resources, and opportunities that I still need to develop. I attend Westside: A Jesus Church in Beaverton, Ore. Last week, there was an analogy that made perfect sense to how I am learning and what I am doing with the opportunities I am given. Imagine your life as each of these two objects: a bucket and a pipe. A bucket collects water. However, there is not outflow from the bucket. The longer the water sits there, the more likely it is to collect dust and debris that will contaminate it. A pipe collects water, as well. The pipe brings in water and then distributes it to other locations, constantly bringing in and pouring out fresh water.

Our lives should reflect a pipe; gaining new pieces of knowledge, skills, and opportunities while also pouring out to others around us. Think about how you are consciously trying to help others advance in their growth. Are you a hoarder of knowledge? Or do you continuously learn and pour out to other?

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Remain in Love - - Notes From Bob Goff

I had the pleasure of hearing best-selling author Bob Goff speak at my church this past Sunday. His theme was from John 15:1 - remain (or abide) in love. If you have not read the his book Love Does, I highly recommend it. If you are a person who has ideas on ways you want to impact the world, but feel that your ideas are too big or not practical, this book will open your mind to believe that one small act of love can cause a major difference in the lives of others. As far as Bob’s speaking goes, he is an energetic man with plenty to share. There was so much that he talked about, but I will just share my biggest three takeaways from what he shared.

Have difficult conversations in the right places.

HUMILITY

Let go and stop being cool. Understand that you are not the center of what is going on. Understand that what you want for yourself is not always the best thing for yourself. The more we chase humility, the more likely we will be to sacrifice ourselves for the good of others.

I met somebody who told me who I was.

FILL YOUR BUCKET

Bob spoke of a period in his life when he carried a physical bucket to remind himself that he carried who he was becoming with him. Carrying pride around in a bucket will weigh you down. But filling your bucket with generosity will make life easier. Fill your bucket with things you want to be with you at all times.

People don’t fall out of love, they lose their imagination.

YIKES!...

...should be our reaction in life. We should never get to the point where we are not challenging ourselves or letting God challenge us. Often in life, we hope for things to be easy and for worldly blessings to be poured upon us. If this is our life, then where is our opportunity for sacrifice and reliance upon our savior?

People who are comfortable don’t need Jesus.

Living Thankfully

There is so much talk about being thankful during this time of year, and my mind took me to gratitude in the game of basketball. Nothing is more frustrating than playing with or coaching players who act like they do not want to be a part of the team. These are the players who bring the intensity of practice down. Depending on the level of leadership on the team, their attitude can spread to other teammates as the season grows. Players whos actions say they would rather not be there are not showing gratitude for their opportunity to be part of a team (an opportunity that only 12 boys in the whole school get). Being thankful is shown in our action more than by what we say. It’s easy to say how thankful you are for certain opportunities, but it’s a different story when it comes to living it out. I thought of three ways that we can begin to live thankfully:

Show up

Being thankful for your opportunites begins by showing up everyday. You can learn much about a person by witnessing their attendance. Yes, there are days for everyone where it might be hard to get out of bed and gain the energy to go to practice for the 6th consecutive day. But by not showing up, a message is sent that being a part of the team is unnecessary in your life; it’s not an opportunity that means enough for you to attend even when motivation is lacking. Perfect attendance is the foundation for gratefulness.

Pour out

The 2nd part to showing your thankfulness is the energy you put out into what you do. Showing up says that something is important to you, but striving for excellence is the piece that says it is meaningful for you. Caring about the results you produce is being grateful for what you are doing. Being sloppy and careless, exerting minimal effort, and acting disinterested are all ways to tell people that you are spoiled. 

Give back

My last thought on displaying gratitude is to be selfless and share your opportunities with others to the best of your ability. We always think of giving money and gifts as an important part of giving back. However, the attitude that we perform with can be just as crucial to our development towards living with gratitude. Work with others for the benefit of a greater good than your own desires. Help others achieve their goals even if it means that individual goals will suffer.

I would love to hear how you will start living your life thankfully. Send me an email with any thoughts.

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Stewardship and Our Responsibility to be Selfless - - #LiftAsYouClimb

To me, one of the best things in life is the people I get to be around. I love that I get to be surrounded by a diverse group of people every day. My enjoyment is not necessarily being around people, but more so learning from people. Taking what I see from them or from what they tell me and reflecting on how I am living. This is best applied when I can make connections with what I am seeing in those around me with what I am studying.

I am currently going through a study called “Our Great Exchange.” It is a study on stewardship. While I limited my thoughts towards stewardship on how I use my money, the first lesson expanded my mind. Stewardship is more than our money, it is everything that we are given, tangible or intangible. Stewardship is taking the gifts God has given you and using them to become who God wants you to be.

As I mentioned before, I was able to go observe a Trailblazers practice. This opportunity was presented to me by my guy Henry. This isn’t the first time he has given me a unique opportunity. Watching Henry made me realize that leadership and growth is a collective process. We always hear how God calls us into a life of community. I think when we refuse to be selfless in our communities, it limits not only our individual growth, but also the growth of those around us.

It’s important to remember that what we have is not ours. We are only stewards of what we have. Life in community requires intentional selflessness. Instead of being focused on YOUR goals and what YOU want, think in terms of the whole. If we hoard our gifts and opportunities for ourselves, we limit the exchange of growth we can share with others. Don’t leave your team behind, bring them with you.

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Team First - - Is It True for You?

So now we can tell who are children of God and who are children of the devil. Anyone who does not live righteously and does not love other believers does not belong to God. 1 John 3:10

As the season begins, we all start to make our vows on how we intend to work towards a certain goal. The most important promise to make in order to achieve team success is to accept a role for yourself that puts the team’s greatest need above your own. This, however, is much easier said than done.

As players, it’s easy to say that we want what’s best for the team at the beginning of the season. The hard part is actually living that out when the season is not going well for you as an individual. It is the act of celebrating team success over personal gain that makes basketball a special game.

The opposite will destruct a team. One player who decides to dictate the success of the season on his/her own standing will become and cancer on the team. That feeling will be seen by the team and limit the potential your team once had. You will seem by others as if you don’t belong to the team.

This effect is also seen in our faith. We see in 1 John that belonging to God necessitates our ability to live and love in community with other Christians. By choosing the opposite, we reject the life that God wants us to live.

Before your season begins, ask yourself these questions to see if you are committed to the team above your own achievements.

1

Can you support your team if you are not earning the playing time you think you deserve?

2

Can you remain obedient to your coach if you are not scoring as much as you feel you are capable of scoring?

3

Can you continue to play within the system if other players whom you believe you are better than are getting more opportunities?

These 3 things can cause individual players to place more importance on themselves than the team’s success. Consistently check in with yourself and reflect on how much you want your team achieve their goals. Are your own goals more important than the team’s? If they are, your team will suffer because of it.

What Do You Desire Most?

That night God appeared to Solomon and said, “What do you want? Ask, and I will give it to you!” (2 Chron 1:7)

What if you were given the chance to request one thing, and you knew it was guaranteed to be given to you?

Money? Possessions? Power?

These are the common choices that society would assume are most desired by people. Culture tells us that we need new things, more money, and a higher social status.

What if this question was geared towards your position in the game of basketball?  I think we would assume that people would choose more championships, more individual accolades, or a new coach/new players/new team.

O Lord God, please continue to keep your promise to David my father, for you have made me king over a people as numerous as the dust of the earth! Give me the wisdom and knowledge to lead them properly, for who could possibly govern this great people of yours?” (2 Chron 1:8-9)

In a culture that is focused on self-promotion and personal gain, we can take lessons from Solomon’s request. While we read that he requests wisdom and knowledge, his request gives us more to consider when we think about what type of leader we are becoming.

THANKFULNESS

Solomon leads off by acknowledging how he became in this position of leadership. It wasn’t by his individual effort alone or by networking. It was through his father by a calling from God.

SELFLESSNESS

 

While Solomon could have easily requested something for personal gain (or even wisdom and knowledge for his own growth), he felt that the needs of his people were more important than his desires. His request was made with intentions of helping his people.

HUMILITY

Solomon’s request to lead his people better was based on his acknowledgment that he was incapable of doing his job efficiently without further advancement. Too many people believe they are fully equipped for their future and stop learning and developing. It’s important to realize that every day is a chance to grow as a person and a leader.

God said to Solomon, “Because your greatest desire is to help your people, and you did not ask for wealth, riches, fame, or even the death of your enemies or a long life, but rather you asked for wisdom and knowledge to properly govern my people —  I will certainly give you the wisdom and knowledge you requested. But I will also give you wealth, riches, and fame such as no other king has had before you or will ever have in the future!” (2 Chron 1:11-12)

Your Approach During Tryouts

Tryouts are approaching quickly! While some players are confident in their standing with the team, others are fighting for their chance to be a part of the program. I have a few tips for each category of players.  

If you are confident…

LEAD

Set the standard for which you expect all players to work like. Show everyone else that it is not easy to be a part of the team they are trying out for. If it was easy, anyone could do it.

SERVE

If you believe that you are a lock for your team, create a culture of serving early on. Any chance you get, help to meet your teammates needs. This can be as simple as being the first player to get to the huddle, picking up basketballs/equipment after practice, or getting water for an exhausted teammate.

TALK

Communicate on the court! Other players will be nervous and may not be willing to step out of their comfort zone. Show the importance of communication within the game by talking with your teammates on and off the court.

If you are fighting…

LISTEN

Follow instructions. Coaches do not want to have to continuously explain themselves. Listen to what the coach wants in each drill. If you do not fully understand, sit out a few reps and watch the more experienced players do it before you jump in.

WORK

Be the hardest working player on the floor. Coaches will notice you if your work ethic is on a higher level than the others. Once you have their attention, you can be assured you will be seen and observed.

PERFORM

No matter what you do, you still need to be able to play. Knock down your open shots and limit your turnovers. Be aggressive, but don’t try and do too much. And you definitely need to be able to defend!